More tips to get what you want

I was just listening to Daniel Pink being interviewed (HBR) about his new book, "To sell is human" and thought this would be great for you.

It's a HBR blog podcast with the interview transcribed.

Among other things he talks about 

  • interrogative self talk - Can I do this? So your brian goes in search of evidence
  • > 3 positive emotions : 1 negative for buoyancy / bounce back
  • Attunement - getting on the same wavelength
  • Ambiverts best at sales (a little bit extravert (speak up) AND a little bit introvert (listen well)

These are the sorts of thing I cover experientially in my influence and persuasion workshops.

Enjoy Y

How to improve your interpersonal skills

“I was wondering if you had any specific tips to help me improve my interpersonal skills with other team members. I tend to be fairly quiet at work, Come in, say Hi, complete my days work, say good-bye & go home again!”

My favourite interpersonal tip is smiling (more).

Remember even if you don't feel like smiling, when you look up and smile you can't feel depressed.

This is because endorphins are produced after 2 seconds and looking up takes you into visual processing channels. 

Looking down takes you into the emotions and feelings.

Another tip is to have your lunch in the lunchroom.

Have a magazine open and when someone comes in, look up and smile.

They may then say something to you.

And if you feel like it, say something to them about something in the news / give them a compliment / or mention something your reading.

Try these and let me know how you go.



Posted on January 14, 2013 .

Explore, Dream, Discover

Enjoy Mark Twain's words and wisdom.

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things
that you didn't do than by the ones you did.
So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover."
Mark Twain

So what will you dare to do today?
With love, light and laughter,

Posted on January 14, 2013 .

Live your name

What’s important to you? What do you stand for? What do you believe about yourself?

Take your name and make an acronym to live by.


  Y Yes to life!

  V Value what’s important

  O Optimistic. Expect the best

  N NO to what I don’t want.

  N Never done. Always learning!

  E Enthusiastic



Posted on January 14, 2013 .


"Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...
it's about learning to dance in the rain!"
-Vivian Greene

This quote reminds me of growing up in the North of England.
We got lots of storms and rain  . . . which produces the luxurious green countryside.

When we learn to look for and appreciate the best in every moment and everything . . .
we will be able to dance in the rain!
With love, light and laughter,

Posted on January 14, 2013 .